In honor of Valentine’s Day this month, and my own five-year engage-iversary last month, here are five questions you can ask your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend to build a deeper connection.
Turn your phones off. Go for a walk or split an app at the diner down the street. Drive to a new part of town you’ve never been to before. It’s easier to talk when you’re doing something together, and it’s important for relationship building to experience life together too.
These questions are not specifically for romantic relationships and would work great for a friend date or roommate hang as well!
1. WHAT’S YOUR HIDDEN TALENT?
Provide evidence of your hidden talent to prove it! An important part of a healthy relationship is appreciating each other’s strengths and quirks. Extra points if it’s embarrassing 🙂
2. WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT?
Learn something new and get to know your partner better! For a bonus challenge, set a timer for 7 minutes and let the other person talk without any interruptions from you (it’s harder than you think!).
3. IF YOU COULD TRAVEL ANYWHERE …?
You can think local, such as a short day trip. Or you can think bigger and dream about exotic cities with an unlimited budget. If you’re feeling motivated, make plans to visit one of these places together. Set a date for a local trip or start saving pennies for a bigger trip.
4. WHAT SIGNS OF GROWTH DO YOU SEE IN EACH OTHER?
Take a moment and celebrate the amazing person sitting across from you! After all they’ve chosen you, so they must be pretty cool 🙂 It’s encouraging when somebody recognizes growth in you that you haven’t noticed. If you want to take it a step further, identify areas of relational, spiritual, and/or emotional growth. Maybe your partner made a goal and kept it, served at church in a new way, or kept your children ALIVE. That’s all pretty impressive!
5. WHAT’S OUR SONG?
A great poet once said, “Our song is a slamming screen door…” The good news is, we don’t need the lyrical storytelling talents of Tswift to choose a special song. Is there a song that makes you both reminisce about the warm and fuzzy feelings you have for each other? Maybe from a concert you went to or a song played at your wedding? If you haven’t been dating long enough to have a “song,” talk about the first concert you ever went to or what your favorite song was when you were sixteen.
Comment below if you’ve completed these questions with your significant other so we can cheer each other on to form healthier and lasting relationships!
Check out last year’s post if you’d like EVEN MORE QUESTIONS: 5 Questions to Ask Your Significant Other